Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset
Sep 19, 2018
What do the voices in your head say?
Not the crazy ones, we all have learned to ignore, and accept those voices, but the loud voice that tells you that you aren't capable of happiness, success, joy, partnership, wanderlust, creativity, making a difference.
What does it say?
More importantly, why do you listen to it?
Maybe that voice started as a whisper when you were very young, and you had a parent who didn't see the value you brought to the family, or the talent you had that was desperate to be nourished.
Or it's an echo that you can't seem to silence. Bouncing off the hollows of your soul. A lingering reminder of the opinion of a person who never truly respected you as an equal.
Or maybe that voice is so easy to listen to because it's always been your voice. Keeping you safe, and confined within the four walls of your self-created box.
That voice, that fixed mindset, no matter where it originated from, will keep you in a stagnant place, unable to take on the challenges that arise.
Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck brilliantly wrote:
"For twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?
Believing that your qualities are carved in stone — the fixed mindset — creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over. If you have only a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality, and a certain moral character — well, then you’d better prove that you have a healthy dose of them. It simply wouldn’t do to look or feel deficient in these most basic characteristics.
There’s another mindset in which these traits are not simply a hand you’re dealt and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others that you have a royal flush when you’re secretly worried it’s a pair of tens. In this mindset, the hand you’re dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Although people may differ in every which way — in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperaments — everyone can change and grow through application and experience."
Are are you craving a growth mindset, and the development and experience that comes with that mindset, but your totally fucking clueless how to even make the switch?
The number one thing that I did to flip my mindset, was to find my passion for learning and self-improvement, over the need for approval. I showed up every single day, ready to absorb new information, and every failure that presented itself was met with gratitude for the opportunity to learn.
I believe, with my entire being, that nurturing a growth mindset is the foundation for success in all areas of your life.
"Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives." - Carol Dweck
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